[Do not accuse anyone for no reason…]

So, it’s been a while since I logged a “flying lesson,” and unfortunately, this one’s a grievous blunder. I’ll admit it, I’m a lunatic. You wouldn’t know it if you were seated next to me, as I tend to quietly ponder (er plot?) everything while I listen, but if you could read my mind, you might be amused. Unfortunately, I’m not so amused.  

Protective and Guarded

Admitely, I can be very protective of not only myself, but also the people around me. I have my reasons, and I tend to believe that they are good reasons. (Proverbs 22:51 Peter 5:8Nonetheless, after my last escapade I’m soberly pondering things carefully. I’m trying to learn NOT to lean on my own understanding, but apparently I still have a ways to go. 

Too Late

Have you ever read a verse that you could have used before you made your mistake? This is exactly what happened while I was reading my Bible on Tuesday. However, God’s timing is perfect and He doesn’t make mistakes, so it got me thinking. Remorse makes for a much better lesson than if I’d never experienced this unfortunate event. Why? Well, I’ll definitely remember this one because it really hit me in the heart.

“Sorrow is better than laughter, because sober reflection is good for the heart.” –Ecclesiastes 7:3(NET)

Overanalyzing and Accusations 

For the sake of the person that I accused, I won’t go into too much detail about what happened. (See, I’m protective, yet, I still managed to misstep.) Does life have a really delicate balance, or am I just overly clumsy? According to Scripture, our thoughts alone require some balance.

“Be careful what you think, because your thoughts run your life.” –Proverbs 4:23(NCV)

I felt so bad. This person did me no harm, yet I haphazardly insinuated things. He hadn’t done anything wrong, yet, I responded as if he had. (This one’s hard to explain without more detail.) Even if anyone were to suddenly assail me I would still be in the wrong to return evil for evil. (1 Peter 3:9)

So What Happend?

What happened is that I put two and two together, and it came out an assumption. I know that I’m not the only one who’s done this, so it’s not as if this scenario is unique.

It’s fair enough to scrutinize things closely; we should be somewhat guarded (1 Peter 5:8-9), however, it doesn’t matter if an assumption is true or false. Scripture says that were not to accuse anyone who has done us no harm. (Proverbs 3:30) This makes perfect sense, so where was my head? 

Since Proverbs was my first favorite Book of the Bible, I’m sure that I’ve read this before. Nevertheless, how often do we read through Proverbs, and does what we read always stick if we haven’t experienced it firsthand?  I’m glad that I’m reading through Proverbs again. I’m also thankful for the lesson. Apparently, I need a refresher course! 


I guess I need to dial something down. I’m not sure exactly what or how, but I do know that I need to refrain from blurting out the suspicious thought that happens to run through my head. I also need to seek God’s wisdom (Proverbs 3:5-8 ) and evaluate the data. If I handled this situation all wrong, how could I have handled it differently and better? For starters, I should have paused, prayed and stayed silent until I knew how to respond appropriately. Why do I keep forgetting to do this!!!???

Valuable Lessons

My heart did some time for the crime, but at least I’ve officially learned not to accuse anyone who has done me no harm. Now I just need to swear off being trigger happy. Sadly, you can’t take back words. All I can do is say I’m sorry, and pray that I’ll do better.


If we have thunder rolling within us, let’s aim it at the devil, not each other. We don’t fight against flesh and blood… (Ephesians 6:12 ) That was the aim of his poem here.

“Do not accuse anyone for no reason– when they have done you no harm.” -Proverbs 3:30


If you’re interested in reading more from this series all posts can be found here. And the post that explains why I started “Captain’s Blog” can be found right here —> Flying Lessons

11 thoughts on “An Aerial Assault

  1. Your photo infographic is amazing. Made me chuckle.
    Sometimes we read things after the fact so that they make sense. If you were to read it before, chances are that you would have not paid much attention to it.
    I definitely can be guilty of such assault, as well. However, more and more often, I take a breath and ask if someone did something. I still need to work on those questions. Sometimes the other person sees the question as accusation.

    1. Thanks. 🙂 I’m glad it gave you a chuckle. I’ll never survive my lunacy without a dose of humor. We human beings can be very volitile. I’m finding it more and more tricky to assess things accurately. I wanna say, maybe I should stop accessing, but it’s probably more like, maybe I should stop obsessing. 😀

    1. Yes! And I just read a post that gave me a great reminder and comfort. His grace only increases. (Romans 5:20) I’m so glad! We all need so much grace, don’t we?

  2. Oh girl, I really do feel… Too many times, I have been in similar situations and I absolutely hate to apologize, but just maybe that’s why I’ve been given so many opportunities to practice 🙂 🙂 Great steps, my friend;

    1. Thanks Brenda! For me it’s more of a reacting too soon thing. I don’t mind aologizing, but I used to be really terrible when it came to appologies. Things change. I changed. When I’m feeling terrible, I am quick to say I’m sorry. Now I just have to learn not to react to things so quickly. Yeah, gotta remember the pause, pray and patience. The Lord gives me many opportunities to learn to slow things down. I AM getting better, but He also allows me to make my blunders. Blunders are great teachers… lol. It doesn’t feel good, but you definitely remember.

  3. We all make mistakes, speak with out thinking, and jump to conclusions. However it can be a learning experience when we realize what we’ve done and apologize. Here is another bible quote Proverbs 21:23: Watch your words and hold your tongue; you’ll save yourself a lot of grief. (The Message Bible). A good quote for all of us. ❤️

    1. Yes! That’s a great verse too! Thank you. Though I goofed, I’m kind of excited. I learned something, and I’m looking forward to reading through the rest of Proverbs again. I’ll be jotting down many notes! 😀

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