[Do not accuse anyone for no reason…]
So, it’s been a while since I logged a “flying lesson,” and unfortunately, this one’s a grievous blunder. I’ll admit it, I’m a lunatic. You wouldn’t know it if you were seated next to me, as I tend to quietly ponder (er plot?) everything while I listen, but if you could read my mind, you might be amused. Unfortunately, I’m not so amused.
Protective and Guarded
Admitely, I can be very protective of not only myself, but also the people around me. I have my reasons, and I tend to believe that they are good reasons. (Proverbs 22:5, 1 Peter 5:8) Nonetheless, after my last escapade I’m soberly pondering things carefully. I’m trying to learn NOT to lean on my own understanding, but apparently I still have a ways to go.
Have you ever read a verse that you could have used before you made your mistake? This is exactly what happened while I was reading my Bible on Tuesday. However, God’s timing is perfect and He doesn’t make mistakes, so it got me thinking. Remorse makes for a much better lesson than if I’d never experienced this unfortunate event. Why? Well, I’ll definitely remember this one because it really hit me in the heart.
“Sorrow is better than laughter, because sober reflection is good for the heart.” –Ecclesiastes 7:3(NET)
Overanalyzing and Accusations
For the sake of the person that I accused, I won’t go into too much detail about what happened. (See, I’m protective, yet, I still managed to misstep.) Does life have a really delicate balance, or am I just overly clumsy? According to Scripture, our thoughts alone require some balance.
“Be careful what you think, because your thoughts run your life.” –Proverbs 4:23(NCV)
I felt so bad. This person did me no harm, yet I haphazardly insinuated things. He hadn’t done anything wrong, yet, I responded as if he had. (This one’s hard to explain without more detail.) Even if anyone were to suddenly assail me I would still be in the wrong to return evil for evil. (1 Peter 3:9)
So What Happend?
What happened is that I put two and two together, and it came out an assumption. I know that I’m not the only one who’s done this, so it’s not as if this scenario is unique.
It’s fair enough to scrutinize things closely; we should be somewhat guarded (1 Peter 5:8-9), however, it doesn’t matter if an assumption is true or false. Scripture says that were not to accuse anyone who has done us no harm. (Proverbs 3:30) This makes perfect sense, so where was my head?
Since Proverbs was my first favorite Book of the Bible, I’m sure that I’ve read this before. Nevertheless, how often do we read through Proverbs, and does what we read always stick if we haven’t experienced it firsthand? I’m glad that I’m reading through Proverbs again. I’m also thankful for the lesson. Apparently, I need a refresher course!
I guess I need to dial something down. I’m not sure exactly what or how, but I do know that I need to refrain from blurting out the suspicious thought that happens to run through my head. I also need to seek God’s wisdom (Proverbs 3:5-8 ) and evaluate the data. If I handled this situation all wrong, how could I have handled it differently and better? For starters, I should have paused, prayed and stayed silent until I knew how to respond appropriately. Why do I keep forgetting to do this!!!???
My heart did some time for the crime, but at least I’ve officially learned not to accuse anyone who has done me no harm. Now I just need to swear off being trigger happy. Sadly, you can’t take back words. All I can do is say I’m sorry, and pray that I’ll do better.
“Do not accuse anyone for no reason– when they have done you no harm.” -Proverbs 3:30