[Sweet friendships refresh the soul…]

I have a twin. Or at least he will forever be my twin at heart.

IMG_20191012_163626(May 2009)

When I met Chris (online) 14 or so years ago, it was a bit  like looking into a mirror; I saw so much of myself in him. We also have many weird “coincidental” things in common. Therefore, friendship came quite easily and the term “twin” was coined early into this voyage. Chris is one of our best friends, but even more than that; he’s family to Andrew and I.

Rough Seas

Even the best of friends, however, can go through troubled waters. There was a time when I felt as if I was drowning in Chris’ troubles. I wanted to help, but besides praying, there was little that I could do. Prayer should have been enough, but I hated to see him struggling. I guess I needed to learn to trust God.

One day, as we messaged back and forth, he was shooting down everything I suggested (This was pretty routine.) He was being mister negative. He knows that I love him to pieces (no matter what), but he was going off the deep end and I guess I went right along with him. I was at wits’ end, so I told him not to message me until he sorted things out. (I regretted this. My emotions got away on me.) To be fair, I nearly had the patience of Job. It took many years before this tug boat suddenly ran out of steam.

Nevertheless, I grieved the silence between us as if our friendship was sunk. Thankfully I was wrong. When his mother passed away, I received a message from him. He ended it with, “I thought you’d want to know.” Of course I wanted to know! If Andrew and I could have, we’d have jumped aboard a plane and been en route to him in a heartbeat.

Just because I didn’t know how to handle things, didn’t mean that I cared any less. Obviously he knew this, or he wouldn’t have messaged me. That’s one of the things I cherish about our friendship: he knows me.

In 2009 Andrew and I had the opportunity to fly across the country, so we took it without hesitation!  This was a true gift from God.

Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” —James 1:17

IMG_0836(Ships that we explored at the Buffalo N.Y. Navel Park in 2009)

IMG_0835(Andrew in heaven. Haha.)

IMG_0829(A giant trying to fit through a Hobbit hole.)


IMG_0833(Me sittin’ in a sub looking like a doe caught in the  headlights.)

IMG_07(My brother from another mother thinking, Finders keepers, right?)

Things Change

I’ve prayed for this monkey for years. (I still am.) He has people in his life who care about him, which still includes Andrew and I, and thankfully he’s finding some peace.

When I’d tell Chris to have a great week, he used to say begrudgingly, “I’ll try.” Now, with a more mellow tone, he says, “I’ll do my best.” He also made sure that I noticed this change in attitude. (Yeah, I noticed! And I’m proud of him too!)

As Andrew and I face our trials and health challenges, I’m grateful that we still have this tall guy in the hat around to remind us that it will be alright. We may live a couple thousand miles apart, in separate countries even, but he’ll always be very close to our hearts.


I made the video below for Chris somewhere around 2007-2008 as one of my many attempts to encourage him. My insecurity and awkwardness is very clear. I’m a writer, not a speaker, but I do my best!

One Last Thing: Ask!

As I was taking a walk recently, my mood was low. Not long after I asked the Lord to revive me, something I’d said in this video came to mind. I voiced that I was down because Chris had been down. (I’m very empathetic, but I’m also very scrappy, so I won’t let myself stay down long.)

We’re going to go through seasons that take the wind out of our sails. Some seasons we’re even bombarded with one thing right after another. This makes it much more difficult to catch that second wind. (Sometimes it even feels impossible.) Fight that feeling, but don’t try to do it in your own strength. Nobody is that strong. Ask God to revive you or renew a right spirit within you. He loves to give us what we need. (Matthew 7:7-12Remember that you’re never alone. 

If you’ve accepted Jesus as the Lord of your life, you’ve recieved the Holy Spirit . God is always with you. He gives us His own Spirit to comfort and help us.  Don’t let the devil convince you that asking is pointless. That’s unbelief. More than anything, Satan doesn’t want you to have faith because faith DOES move mountains. So ask for more belief, for where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. (2 Corinthians 3:12-18)

(A bit embarrassing.)

“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”  ❤ –Proverbs 17:17

Sweet friendships refresh the soul and awaken our hearts with joy, for good friends are like the anointing oil that yields the fragrant incense of God’s presence.–Proverbs 27:9 

“It’s always hard to believe in your own life. Easier to find belief for a friend.  I’ll hope for you, you for me, and together we can say, it’ll be okay…it’ll be alright… –Superchick


If you’re interested in following this series, all posts can be found here. And the first post in this series can be found right here: Faith: Mapped

34 thoughts on “The Voyage: It’ll Be Alright

    1. Thanks. Lol. I can’t stay normal on camera. As soon as I get in front of a camera I always start smirking. 😀 Then who knows what will happen next. Lol.

  1. Ahh I love this post, so sweet!! Friendships are so essential ❤️you are such an encourager, so positive, and a huge blessing!
    I’m gonna go watch the video now, can’t wait!!
    P.s. love that you guys got to all visit in person!

    1. Yeah, it was amazing. Just this week, that tall guy in the hat sent me a Facebook message to show me the chair he bought for his apartment. That’s the stuff I love…getting a random message just because. It makes me feel included. 😊 That’s the sweetness of friendship. It goes both ways.

      1. Yes very true!! And when that happens it lets us know people are thinking about us, it feels good❤️ I think sooo much about my friends on WordPress and feel like I don’t utilize my time well so communication doesn’t happen as often as I’d like. I need to figure out time management better🙏

      2. We all do. Or maybe it’s just you and I. Lol. 😁 I’m working on time management too, but the unpredictability of my health makes management of anything very challenging.

      3. I bet so! That’s gotta be frustrating…because of my psoriasis (auto immune disorder) I get sick pretty easy too but the better people are in my house about washing hands the healthier I stay I’ve decided!

  2. “but I hated to see him struggling. I guess I needed to learn to trust God.” – I can totally relate to that.
    Your video was so relatable and adorable.
    It WILL be alright.

      1. Yeah. Well I used to be very shy and socially anxious. It’s good to be free to laugh at yourself instead of worrying what everyone thinks of you. Now I care more what God, my hubby and I think of me. So yeah, that totally frees you to laugh at yourself.

  3. Thanks for sharing this with us, Tina. It shows what a wonderful person you are. And how nice to have a friendship like that. I loved the video because you were being so real and it had humor in it! 💜

    1. Awe, thanks Bridget. I find certain parts of that video a little embarrassing, but it makes me laugh anyways. You gotta be able to laugh at yourself, right? 😀

      1. Yes so true! I admire you for sharing it! We all need to be more transparent. I think too often we put masks on and people don’t see the real thing. Especially in the church. I think when we let our guard down, we have a better testimony and better opportunity to reach others. 😊

    1. Thanks, Sally. They truly are both rare and precious. I’m very blessed that I’ve been so fortunate to have more than a few of them. Some of those treasures are in heaven, but they are still a huge chunk of my heart. ❤ Thanks for the comment.

  4. It will indeed be alright. Tell Chris that a friend here says hi! And I’m glad that I’m not the only one who has a friend like Chris! 😊😃

    1. Lol! Oh sure, you say hi to my twin, but you don’t say hi to me, Ime! Lol… 😁 Maybe Andrew’s right, I am invisible. How do you turn this power off? Lol. I’m teasing. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. ❤ Having a friend like Chris is a real blessing. True friendship endures all. So even the rough waters are amazing to look back on. ❤

      1. Hahahahahaha… Oh dear, forgive me darling and hi hi to you of course! 😁
        My regards to you and Andrew as well. I’m glad that you are enjoying your friendship with Chris. Blessings dear!

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