[Sweet friendships refresh the soul…]
I have a twin. Or at least he will forever be my twin at heart.
When I met Chris (online) 14 or so years ago, it was a bit like looking into a mirror; I saw so much of myself in him. We also have many weird “coincidental” things in common. Therefore, friendship came quite easily and the term “twin” was coined early into this voyage. Chris is one of our best friends, but even more than that; he’s family to Andrew and I.
Even the best of friends, however, can go through troubled waters. There was a time when I felt as if I was drowning in Chris’ troubles. I wanted to help, but besides praying, there was little that I could do. Prayer should have been enough, but I hated to see him struggling. I guess I needed to learn to trust God.
One day, as we messaged back and forth, he was shooting down everything I suggested (This was pretty routine.) He was being mister negative. He knows that I love him to pieces (no matter what), but he was going off the deep end and I guess I went right along with him. I was at wits’ end, so I told him not to message me until he sorted things out. (I regretted this. My emotions got away on me.) To be fair, I nearly had the patience of Job. It took many years before this tug boat suddenly ran out of steam.
Nevertheless, I grieved the silence between us as if our friendship was sunk. Thankfully I was wrong. When his mother passed away, I received a message from him. He ended it with, “I thought you’d want to know.” Of course I wanted to know! If Andrew and I could have, we’d have jumped aboard a plane and been en route to him in a heartbeat.
Just because I didn’t know how to handle things, didn’t mean that I cared any less. Obviously he knew this, or he wouldn’t have messaged me. That’s one of the things I cherish about our friendship: he knows me.
In 2009 Andrew and I had the opportunity to fly across the country, so we took it without hesitation! This was a true gift from God.
“Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” —James 1:17
(Ships that we explored at the Buffalo N.Y. Navel Park in 2009)
(Andrew in heaven. Haha.)
(A giant trying to fit through a Hobbit hole.)
(Me sittin’ in a sub looking like a doe caught in the headlights.)
(My brother from another mother thinking, Finders keepers, right?)
I’ve prayed for this monkey for years. (I still am.) He has people in his life who care about him, which still includes Andrew and I, and thankfully he’s finding some peace.
When I’d tell Chris to have a great week, he used to say begrudgingly, “I’ll try.” Now, with a more mellow tone, he says, “I’ll do my best.” He also made sure that I noticed this change in attitude. (Yeah, I noticed! And I’m proud of him too!)
As Andrew and I face our trials and health challenges, I’m grateful that we still have this tall guy in the hat around to remind us that it will be alright. We may live a couple thousand miles apart, in separate countries even, but he’ll always be very close to our hearts.
I made the video below for Chris somewhere around 2007-2008 as one of my many attempts to encourage him. My insecurity and awkwardness is very clear. I’m a writer, not a speaker, but I do my best!
One Last Thing: Ask!
As I was taking a walk recently, my mood was low. Not long after I asked the Lord to revive me, something I’d said in this video came to mind. I voiced that I was down because Chris had been down. (I’m very empathetic, but I’m also very scrappy, so I won’t let myself stay down long.)
We’re going to go through seasons that take the wind out of our sails. Some seasons we’re even bombarded with one thing right after another. This makes it much more difficult to catch that second wind. (Sometimes it even feels impossible.) Fight that feeling, but don’t try to do it in your own strength. Nobody is that strong. Ask God to revive you or renew a right spirit within you. He loves to give us what we need. (Matthew 7:7-12) Remember that you’re never alone.
If you’ve accepted Jesus as the Lord of your life, you’ve recieved the Holy Spirit . God is always with you. He gives us His own Spirit to comfort and help us. Don’t let the devil convince you that asking is pointless. That’s unbelief. More than anything, Satan doesn’t want you to have faith because faith DOES move mountains. So ask for more belief, for where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. (2 Corinthians 3:12-18)
(A bit embarrassing.)
“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” ❤ –Proverbs 17:17
Sweet friendships refresh the soul and awaken our hearts with joy, for good friends are like the anointing oil that yields the fragrant incense of God’s presence.–Proverbs 27:9
“It’s always hard to believe in your own life. Easier to find belief for a friend. I’ll hope for you, you for me, and together we can say, it’ll be okay…it’ll be alright… –Superchick