I’m learning how important it is to share. It’s only when we share, that we can gain valuable insight and encouragement from those who are willing to reciprocate. It does mean being vulnerable, but this is a risk that I’m willing to take.

We all have insecurities. At least I’m assuming I’m not the only one. One of the things I struggle with is socializing. Maybe you haven’t picked up on it, but it can definitely be a challenge for me, particularly small talk. It hasn’t always come so naturally to me, so I can second guess the comments that I’ve left on my fellow bloggers posts. If you’ve ever wondered about me, well, I wonder about me too. (Haha) I wonder too much.

I mean well when I leave a comment, but at times I’m sure that my awkward comments may come out in a way that I never intended. Or maybe I’m just over analyzing.

I’ve sort of lived in a bubble, so when I look at the diversity here on WordPress, I can feel way out of my comfort zone. Conversing with new people, especially people from totally different backgrounds, is very daunting to me.  I’m pushing myself to do more of it, anyways.  So I apologize in advance if I put my foot in my mouth.

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I click with certain people automatically, while others intimidate the life out of me. It’s not usually them. It’s mostly my own insecurities. I’m learning, however, that when you step across the line, some will step across that line too. Others may never respond.  Then there are those who come out of nowhere and become your very dear, and very best friends. 

I’m an introspective, introverted writer at heart, whose a bit of a bumbling social networking butterfly. However, I’m also stubbornly for change and progress.  So please bear with me as I continue to learn how to flit past my comfort zone. 

The one thing I do have going for me is that when I lack confidence I’m reminded that my confidence comes from my Lord Jesus who qualifies the unqualified and gives them everything they need to do as He wants. (Hebrews 13:20-21) I’ll get there!

Enjoy your weekend!

Tina

What about you?  What challenges your comfort zone?

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25 thoughts on “Comfort Zones

  1. Great post, love the honesty!!
    I am definitely socially awkward at times but instead of feeding into that I’m learning that if I just call myself out on it in front of who ever I’m visiting with I can manage much better…So I literally say ‘sorry I’m being awkward’ right now…Most people know that I’m pretty goofy but that I have a serious side too ..so when I start feeling uncomfortable in a conversation I can honestly just handle myself much better if I say ‘sorry I’m just being weird’ or ‘I’m just being awkward’…K see right here, just in my writing, I’m rambling on and getting awkward LOL

    1. Lol. Well, I have never seen you as awkward at all. I have always enjoyed our conversations. I really should just say I’m awkward if I’m feeling that way. I do it on my blog. Hmmm.

  2. Thanks for being honest Tina and sharing about your struggle. I’ve felt insecure posting up here at times too and in certain social situations. Like you mentioned our confidence comes from Christ so we can look to Him to help us to grow in this area. ❤️❤️❤️

    There is a Blogger I follow who writes about her journey with social anxiety:
    http://www.gracetobeimperfect.com

  3. I pretty much agree with every word of this post! I second guess all my comments and replies. Often it takes me way too long to even think of the right words for the comment / reply in the first place. And then once I hit send I figure I said the wrong thing. I am definitely an introvert and terrible with small talk as well. And I feel as though I hardly ever click with anyone. I still feel like an outsider with people I have known for years. But I also know part of this may stem from my personality, as I find it hard to be open with others…. So thank you for this post! I am glad to know I have fellow friends out there who are a lot like me. And I love the positive spin you added at the end. 💜

    1. Thank you so much. It really does help to know that I’m not the only one who does this. Imagine if everyone admitted their struggles and insecurities. It does mean being vulnerable, which isn’t a fun feeling, but I know people who never share, or if they do it’s so very little. However, the people who have influenced me the most here on WordPress are the ones who have shared difficult things. I totally respect that, and I strive to be this way. It’s the small talk that can be really difficult. I don’t want to say too little. Then again I don’t want to say too much. Basically I over think it. Maybe I should just pray about it. There’s a thought huh? See… Sharing always helps me. 😀 Thanks so much for your comment. You are not alone. And from now on, I’ll make sure that you know it by reading your blog and attempting to comment. Hehe. 😀

      1. Aw thank you! Your reply has warmed my heart! Being more transparent is something I want to do because I feel we all would benefit if we took down our walls. But unfortunately at times when I do take a step out, the enemy attacks. So I am working on it! But I overthink too! I drive myself crazy sometimes. So hopefully we can work on that as well. Just be ourselves without worrying about it. Thanks again!! And I will also be sure read and comment on your posts as well 💜

      2. I understand. I go through all of the anxiety every time I let down my walls as well. The enemy does attack, but I’m fiesty. The way I look at is that God doesn’t give us a spirit of fear. The devil lies. Then I ask myself who do I trust more? Obviously that answer is God. If I feel lead to share something I will share it. The battle is real, but it does get easier each time. I don’t think the devil wants us to know that but I’m telling. ❤

      3. Ah yes I do let the enemy get in my head way too much. But I am working on it. I love your attitude about it and the way you are able to battle it! And it’s nice to know it gets easier! I will remember that! 💜

  4. Yes! God qualifies the unqualified! Exactly why you need to learn to stop second guessing yourself. In my case I doubt my abilities slot. So I am learning to lean on God and his strength. Sometimes I am not even sure how to do that. But I am slowly learning.

    Thanks for sharing. From your biggest fan😃

    1. It will get easier (learning to lean on God for His strength, that is.) You’ll learn. He’s an amazing teacher. 🙂 Someone once said to me that I have a teachable spirit. You have that too. You want to learn and grow. He has your attention.

      Thanks so much for your encouragement. You are right. I do have to stop second guessing myself. I let the devil jab me where he knows I’m soft. I have to trust God, let Him lead and be confident that He is and will.

      Awwwww. I never had a fan before lol. 😀 At least nobody has ever worded it that way if they were. You’re sweet. Thank you. 😀 ❤

  5. Dearest Tina, you are a courageous woman to open up like you did here and I’m in awe of you.😀💖😃 I know how hard it is for me presently to open back up my heart that was once opened but then closed because of mistreatment. It’s hard to be vulnerable especially if our wounds are still oozing and bleeding a bit. Thank you so much for being my friend. Thank you so much for your heart, your blog and your determination to persevere alongside of me while we humbly cling to Christ. We are getting stronger every day! Much love and hugs! 💖🤗💖🤗

    1. Aww, don’t you make me cry too. Too late. You already did. 😢 Wow I’m a mess. I’m tripping over myself. Lol… yep, and now I’m crying because everyone is being so sweet to me. Thank you. I think I needed a good cry. Much love and hugs back at ya. 😊 ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤

      1. Thank youuuuuuuuu. 🙂 ❤ I am emotionally wiped. I let myself get to worried that I'd already done some damage. But God is good. He sets me straight by sending in his beautiful soldiers to get me marching to a better tune. 🙂 Thank you again. ❤ Love you sister. ❤

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