I’d say that most of us want to connect. There are those who prefer to keep to themselves, but I think the majority of us enjoy being part of a community. 

I’m no expert on community.  I wasn’t born a social butterfly, or if I was, it was short lived.  

My parents said that I was a chatty little girl.

I’ve been told that I spoke with all the fine folks as I went from table to table at a theme park, but that version of me changed when I entered the school system. This story can be found here.

I’m still fighting to become a person who connects with others.  It’s tough.  We’re all so “connected” yet we don’t always make contact.  Why?

We can get too busy looking out for our own interests.  We can fail to think of others. While were busy trying to sooth our own scrapes and bruises we fail to see that our brother or sister is flat out on the ground beside us.  


If we’re not tending to our own wounds, our heads are so high in the clouds that we can’t see anything but our own kingdom. We can be selfish. It’s difficult to connect when you’re so stuck on yourself, so I guess pride is the real disconnect.

It takes being a friend to gain a friend, and it takes looking to the needs of others to build a strong community. 

This is something I need to do more of. Contact is made when one person reaches out to another.

“When someone helps you when they are struggling, too, that’s not help. That’s love.”


“If you’ve gotten anything at all out of following Christ, if His love has made any difference in your life, if being in a community of the Spirit means anything to you, if you have a heart, if you care— then do me a favor: Agree with each other, love each other, be deep-spirited friends. Don’t push your way to the front; don’t sweet-talk your way to the top. Put yourself aside, and help others get ahead. Don’t be obsessed with getting your own advantage. Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand.” –Philippians 2:1-4(The Message)

Be Unselfish Like Christ

“In your lives you must think and act like Christ Jesus. Christ Himself was like God in everything. But He did not think that being equal with God was something to be used for his own benefit. But He gave up His place with God and made Himself nothing. He was born as a man and became like a servant. And when He was living as a man, He humbled Himself and was fully obedient to God, even when that caused His death—death on a cross. So God raised Him to the highest place. God made His name greater than every other name so that every knee will bow to the name of Jesus—everyone in heaven, on earth, and under the earth. And everyone will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord and bring glory to God the Father. –Philippians 2:3-12(NCV)

Rejoicing Together

“What I’m getting at, friends, is that you should simply keep on doing what you’ve done from the beginning. When I was living among you, you lived in responsive obedience. Now that I’m separated from you, keep it up. Better yet, redouble your efforts. Be energetic in your life of salvation, reverent and sensitive before God. That energy is God’s energy, an energy deep within you, God himself willing and working at what will give him the most pleasure.” —Philippians 2:12-13(The Message)

6 thoughts on “Connected but not Connecting?: Here’s the Disconnect

  1. This is exactly what I’ve been wrapping my mind and heart around lately!! The post I’ll publish today is the same concept as what you have here❤️
    Loved reading this just to reiterate the importance!

    1. Thanks Brenda! I don’t make friends easily either. I’m not much of a talker, so I have some hurdles to conquer I guess. I guess we’ll see where God leads and what He does with me.

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