[Lean not on your own understanding]
Feelings are the sparks that start it all: love’s beginnings. However, the fire must be stoked to always burn brightly. Instead, we let the fire die, stomp upon its ashes, and rekindle loves flames elsewhere with a new flame. That’s not love learned. That’s just a stray spark.
Whether it’s loving your spouse, family, thy neighbor, or even God, left unattended, stray sparks can and do fly. Unchecked, our focus can become something far different from the love that God intends to teach us. Instead, we regress to a former state, where love was a fickle, temperamental thing that valued itself and its own good, above others.
“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves” –Philippians 2:3
We’re all still learning, and none of us has perfect marks. However, if our love has waned, God counsels and warns us to remember the love that we had in the beginning; to consider how far we have fallen, repent, and to do the things we did at first (Revelations 2:4-5) If we aren’t submitting all our ways to Him, those sparks will inevitably fly.
“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.”